We've all been there. Whatever the line, whatever the reaon. Getting dumped and flip your universe on it's side faster and a handful of Xanax and cheap booze. And just like substance abuse it can often feel like you're going to puke and cry at the same time. Fret not, that's nothing more than weakness leaving the body. Want to get on the fast track to a new, better and dare I say, more enlightened you. Let's take a journey to Positivity Town.
Step 1: The Tao of Now
The shitty thing about the past is that it's over and no amount of mental acrobrats can change what's happened. For every negative thought, there is an equal and more powerful positive one. For example, "She left and now I'm completely alone in this world." Bummer dude, but think about it in a different light. "Now that I'm alone, I can focus on loving myself first and foremost."
Everyone wants to feel connected, but we all quest for diversity at the same time. We all love living with someone but isnt' it nice to take a shit in peace and quiet everyonce in awhile. That's one big metaphor for being single- it's like finally being able to take a really good dump whenever the hell you want to.
Being dumped gives you the power to live in the present moment. Do you know how often most people do this? Almost never. Day to day our mind is riddled with to do lists, worries about the future and refelctions of the past. When we're on the shitter is really the only time we clear our minds, and give ourselves the attention we need
Do this: Stop what you're doing right now. Close your eyes, think about nothing and take 5 deep breaths. What did you think about? Nothing? Or were you thinking about thinking about nothing? It doesn't matter. That space you created is yours and yours alone. Enjoy it
Step 2: Stop Thinking, Start Listening
We all want to come to grips with loss. Why did she leave? How could she love another man? This will take you nowhere but two steps backward. Sure, allow yourself time to grieve, it's a natural and healthy process. But don't for a second think it will afford you any clarity. Don't assume there is a shred of logic behind the ebb and flow of love-- if there was, the species would probably cease to exist.
Do yoga -- meditation for the mind, body and soul (and a great place to meet groovy hippie chicks). Read some god damn books. Plant a garden. Workout. Join a swingers club. Whatever suits your fancy. Diverting that energy you put in to loving someone else inward, is truly the only way to fill the void you feel in your soul. No one will do it for you. Drugs won't do it for you (Dope won't help you cope), although the right ones might make it fun along the way.
Healing is a powerful, enriching process that can tap you into a version of yourself you may have never seen before. It will strengthen your identity, empower your perception of self, and bring you inner peace.
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